It’s OK To Not Have It All Figured Out

Recently I’ve been feeling a lot of pressure from society, at the age of 23 I feel like I should have a place of my own, a family and a good career, but in reality I’m the complete opposite and I hate it, or at least I did hate it.

I’m sure you can understand where I’m coming from when it comes to this subject. I feel like I can’t keep up lately with people I know, I should have it all figured out but I really don’t. I’m far from it career wise, in fact I’m pretty average in that area, I definitely don’t have a family of my own yet, I want one eventually but not right now. I absolutely do not own my own place, that would be a miracle.

tomas-malik-7E7XgDByfJ8-unsplashPhoto by Tomáš Malík on Unsplash

I hated it that I wasn’t “conforming to society’s standards” but I’ve recently realised that it’s completely OK to not have it all figured out yet. I feel like we should drop the pressure that we put on ourselves. Don’t get me wrong I’m happy for others who have achieved that already, I’m just a bit behind.

I know that it’s not healthy for my mental health to keep adding this pressure on myself and it makes me want to curl up in a ball and cry because I feel like I’m nowhere near figuring everything out. I don’t know what I want to do career wise yet and that’s OK. I don’t want a family yet and that’s OK. I don’t have my own house and that’s OK.

As soon as I realised that it’s OK to not have it all figured out then I felt a weight lift off my shoulders. Everyone goes at their own pace, some have a shorter journey to their destination when others have to take a longer road. I swear I’ve mentioned something like that before on my blog.

Have you been feeling the same?




11 thoughts on “It’s OK To Not Have It All Figured Out”

  1. I’m 37 and still have zero things figured out, and by now I’ve begun to accept that nobody really ever figures anything out. In the end, the person who knows how to live in the moment, despite how cliche it sounds, is going to be the one who’s got it all figured out the most.

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  2. I’m 30 and have definitely felt the same way. What I have realized is we will never have it all figured out and we’re not supposed too! Life is for living and about taking chances that will get us all our heart desires ❤️ Dream big and you will succeed big! Don’t place yourself in a bubble. You are right where your supposed to be right now and in due time things as you wish will fall into place ❤️

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  3. I am 22 and I can relate to this! Whilst I have a great graduate job lined up, I still don’t think I have it anywhere near figured out. I think there sometimes is pressure to conform to society and follow a life path society expects to you, but you have to do what makes you happy!!

    I wish you all the best!!

    Feel free to read some of my blogs 🙂

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  4. There is so much pressure in your twenties to know what you want to do. I got asked before what my 5 year plan was, and when I said I didn’t have one I was mocked. Why should I create a 5 year plan? I don’t know what im doing tomorrow. Plans change. Im still figuring it out, and im sure I will be for a long time. I think there needs to be less pressure on people to have it all planned and figured out. You live at your own pace and do life the way you want to! Thanks for a great post!

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