Recently I’ve been feeling a lot of pressure from society, at the age of 23 I feel like I should have a place of my own, a family and a good career, but in reality I’m the complete opposite and I hate it, or at least I did hate it.
I’m sure you can understand where I’m coming from when it comes to this subject. I feel like I can’t keep up lately with people I know, I should have it all figured out but I really don’t. I’m far from it career wise, in fact I’m pretty average in that area, I definitely don’t have a family of my own yet, I want one eventually but not right now. I absolutely do not own my own place, that would be a miracle.
I hated it that I wasn’t “conforming to society’s standards” but I’ve recently realised that it’s completely OK to not have it all figured out yet. I feel like we should drop the pressure that we put on ourselves. Don’t get me wrong I’m happy for others who have achieved that already, I’m just a bit behind.
I know that it’s not healthy for my mental health to keep adding this pressure on myself and it makes me want to curl up in a ball and cry because I feel like I’m nowhere near figuring everything out. I don’t know what I want to do career wise yet and that’s OK. I don’t want a family yet and that’s OK. I don’t have my own house and that’s OK.
As soon as I realised that it’s OK to not have it all figured out then I felt a weight lift off my shoulders. Everyone goes at their own pace, some have a shorter journey to their destination when others have to take a longer road. I swear I’ve mentioned something like that before on my blog.
Have you been feeling the same?